44 Years: A Long Road To Citizenship

I was getting ready for work one morning last month when I got an unexpected call from my mom, Annisa Cline-Thomas.

She was so excited because after 44 years of living in America she had finally become a U.S. Citizen!


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Happy (BELATED) Birthday To Me!

It’s been a long time…I know! June was a CRAZY CRAZY busy month. The truth is, I’m exhausted!

June is always a month of reflection for me. As a goal oriented person it’s a natural time to check in with myself to make sure I’m on the right track. My birthday is at the end of the month so I’m always envisioning what I want the next year to look and feel like. This year I was able to spend my birthday with my family in friends at home in Maryland and Washington, D.C. I’m not a person that wears a sash, celebrates for the entire month or “turns up.” I like to eat, so that’s exactly what I did on my birthday.

Now I’m officially 33 years old! GASP…I know! I actually had a whole birthday blog prepared but it doesn’t truly reflect the space I’m in right now. From incidents of hate making its way into a loving black church ending the lives of nine innocent people to personal challenges,! There’s so much to say but it’s difficult to find the right words.

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Hey Mama…

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“I want to tell the world about a friend of mine. This little light of mine, I’m finna let it shine. I’m finna take ya’ll back to them better times. I’m finna talk about my momma if ya’ll don’t mind.” ~ Kanye West, “Hey Mama”




I’m not sure if you’ll ever get this much Kanye in any of my posts, but it’s so fitting for today. I love going through social media only to see picture after picture of moms, step mothers, surrogate mothers, all around bad ass women who birthed and nurtured life in this world.

Of course I wanted to add to the love fest by talking about my favorite person on this earth! My mom, Annisa Cline-Thomas, is in my book is really one of a kind. Not only does she mother my sister, brother and I, she mothers my friends, her co-workers, basically anyone in her path. She teaches us through her actions, generosity and amazing stories. Here are some of the best lessons she’s taught me.

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365 Days Later

I debated whether or not I would even write this blog. Since the first one received such a kind response and I decided to share. I never want this blog to be a diary. But it is somewhat of an extension of my stream of consciousness and this has definitely been on my mind.

April 24th marks one year since my dear cousin Joya passed away.

In a previous blog I wrote about our relationship and how she ultimately became the catalyst to this website and blog.

Joya and I On Her Wedding Day - 2000

Joya and I On Her Wedding Day – 2000


I’m back in Leeds, England as I write this to spend time with her husband, children, friends and other family. The anticipation leading up to the day is full of thoughts about the last times. The last time we saw each other. Our last conversation. The last time she sent me a text. The “I love you’s” that we didn’t know were goodbyes. I remember getting the news of her passing and being propelled into a daze. I remember the day of the funeral and a few things about that trip. That’s it. I really don’t remember the month of May 2014 at all. Daily activities, like going to work, were so arduous. I was just going through the motions, hoping exercise would keep me from plummeting into deep sadness.

My Brother's College Graduation- 2000

My Brother’s College Graduation- 2000


365 days later and not one has passed by without thinking about my cousin; her laugh, her jokes, her style, her being. Most memories evoke laughter while others intensify the void. I don’t know where the phrase, “time heals all wounds,” came from. I do know it’s a big lie.

I think time can help you get more comfortable with a new normal.

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